Posted on | 七月 5, 2012 | No Comments
Son of good friends home recently came the good news, the young man graduated from elementary school graduation was awarded the President’s Award (PresidentAward). Weekend gatherings in their homes, we have to congratulate around the child, slightly shy little guy, but extremely useful for the rest complacent in terms of fucking words, very cocky. Children upstairs to play, his mother told us to see the forum, said the President’s Award is not so valuable, now know is true. School graduates there are nearly ten children had the President’s Award, as long as the results to a certain extent, you can get one sounds like a gimmick of the President’s Award. In fact, many children in the graduation ceremony to get a variety of awards, the children happy. So it seems, the honorary title of the American children of the school year awards and we had very few good student than, the gold content is too low.
It makes me think of last semester, Kin Kin one day who posted a “star student of theday “(today’s star student) sticker to go home, see a little excited a mother, Kin Kin must be done anything earth-shattering good in school, or how became the day’s star pupils. on closer questioning, the villains are not really what they were. few days later, Kin Kin and close to a star student tag back, this mother a little skeptical, how often an inattentive into stars and then carefully cross-examination, the original star pupils “The Emperor in turn do perform well, a little progress, the teacher will be to affix a label a few days but also resistance to a” starstudent of the week “(week star students) to come back under the mother calm, it is little wonder.
Not only is the case, even in school extracurricular sports activities. Kin Kin football lessons and swimming lessons, Allison’s gymnastics class, ballet class, the end of each quarter when they issued a certificate or a medal. The game between the teams is often Friendship first, competition second, each participating child will return victorious, everyone is good.
American education of the sugar-coated bullets from small point of kindergarten, and extend all the way to junior high schools and even universities. Small, draw a plausible picture in kindergarten make a clumsy hand, no matter good or bad, are inevitable, parents and teachers a burst of applause. School, and occasionally then one or two tests, test scores, personal privacy, the school not engage in any form of academic performance ranking. Test scores, or sent home, or send Email to the parents-mail, also significantly above the table on a confidential(Confidential). Every child is a Great Job,Excellent (good, very good). The beginning of time, such a system in terms of the father and mother grew up in the shadow of tests and rankings is simply a milestone in the progress of social civilization, but a long time, more or less have doubts about it.
This education is indeed a great extent to protect the child’s self-esteem, and also the number of children enhanced self-confidence, but in fact it will train a group of over-inflated ego, can not down-to-earth crowd. In real life, no matter how spare no effort to say “youare thebest “, also can not change the fact that she is an ordinary child’s; us how in recognition of her paintings Aura idea, can not let her become an artist, like this like excessive belittle a child’s education, go two extremes, it is not the road of what a good education.
My American colleagues, there is no shortage of the kind of self-righteous people, when they suffered some do not go well in the work studies, it seems frustration is particularly evident. Think about our children, parents trying to create a perfect world, the efforts to defend their self-esteem self-confidence to children, this one is full of praise of the word environment to make their growth becomes unusually difficult.
So I think a compromise is a pragmatic way to look at the child’s growth. The one hand, not all children are contending for first place, so I told Kin Kin Allison, had zero first no big deal (notThe big deal), it is important that you work hard, do the best. Asked me when Allison took the graffiti paintings, on the other hand, she is not a greatartist (school teacher once said so), I will tell her the clouds is not a triangle, look up at the clouds in the sky; asked me when Kin Kin speed count reaches a certain level he is not the most intelligent child class, I tell him I’m not sure, but a lot of practice, you really faster than the other kids; when Allison asked me she is not the most beautiful girl, I will tell her that you are very lovely, in the mother The eyes will always be the most beautiful child.
Spring football lesson the last one, each child made a big medal
And small partners, it is like to play kick sweating, little face flushed like
youth should bloom game test: Three period who is your best brother! ! You have to believe in the constellation secret